Girls .. . were allowed to play in the house . . . and boys were sent outdoors. . .Boys ran around in the yard with toy guns going kksshh-kksshh,fighting wars for made-up reasons and arguing about whowas dead, while girls stayed inside and played with dol

When makinga decision of minor importance, I have always found it advantageous toconsider all the pros and cons. In vital matters, however, such as the choiceof a mate or a profession, the decision should come from the unconscious,from somewhere within ou

Compromise.Such an adjustment of conflicting interests as gives each adversary thesatisfaction of thinking he has got what he ought not to have, and isdeprived of nothing except what was justly his due.

Conflictinvolves incompatible behaviors rather than competitive goals.

Beholdthe turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out.

Resolvingconflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment andappreciation of differences.

Angels fly, because they take themselves lightly.

Theconventional view serves to protect us from the painful job of thinking.

No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.

It is easier to be brave from a safe distance.

Friendships begin with liking or gratitude-roots that can be pulled up.

They know enough who know how to learn.