All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain isnot due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you havethe power to revoke at any moment.

If you truly want honesty, don't ask questions you don't really want the answer to.

Theharder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.

Wisdom requires that we pour a little oil of delicate courtesy on the wheels of friendship.

Bytrying often, the monkey learns to jump from the tree.

Everyoneis wise until he speaks.

It isimpossible to defeat an ignorant man in argument.

Let no one, then think lightly of the world, lest he be despising himself unawares

When angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry ahundred.

Conflictcan destroy a team which hasn't spent time learning to deal with it.

If wemanage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development.