Whenconflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.

Wheneveryou're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make thedifference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factoris attitude.

If you ain't never pick up the sword,you ain't never have to worry about fallin' on it.

Tofight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supremeexcellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.

A child is not a vase to be filled, but a fire to be lit.

We knowwhat happens to people who stay in the middle of the road. They get run over.

Conflictis inevitable, but combat is optional.

WheneverI hear anyone arguing for slavery, I feel a strong impulse to see it tried onhim personally.

Experience is a hard teacher because SHE gives the test first, the lesson afterwards.

We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves byour intentions.

All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.

It ishard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because weare not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creatinga new ‘pearl’ as we are in being right.