Allmarried couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art ofmaking love. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Goodbattle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle ofequal partnership.
Onemight as well try to ride two horses moving in different directions, as totry to maintain in equal force two opposing or contradictory sets of desires.
Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…