We cannot always control our thoughts, but we can control our words, and repetitionimpresses the subconscious, and we are then master of the situation.
It ishard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because weare not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creatinga new ‘pearl’ as we are in being right.
Whoeverhas the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you tryto dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolveconflict, not how to start it.