Considerhow hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chanceyou have in trying to change others.

Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…

All your fingernails grow with no convenient speed except broken one.

Neverforget the power of silence, that massively disconcerting pause which goes onand on and may at last induce an opponent to babble and backtrack nervously.

Conflictis the gadfly of thought. It stirs us to observation and memory. Itinstigates to invention. It shocks us out of sheeplikepassivity, and sets us at noting and contriving.

Whenyou're at the edge of a cliff, sometimes progress is a step backwards.

Untrained intelligence is as much of use as a bottle without an opener.

Conflictinvolves incompatible behaviors rather than competitive goals.

One of the function of intelligence is to take account of the dangers that come from trusting solely to the intelligence.

Thego-between wears out a thousand sandals.

Beon a horse when you go in search of a better one.

What wesee depends mainly on what we look for.