Thetorment of human frustration, whatever its immediate cause,is the knowledge that the self is in prison, its vital force and ‘mangledmind’ leaking away in lonely, wasteful self-conflict.
My fathersaid: you must never try to make all the money that's in a deal. Let theother fellow make some money too, because if you have a reputation for alwaysmaking all the money, you won't have many deals.
You can have power over people as long as you don't takeeverything away from them. But when you've robbed a man of everything, he'sno longer in your power.
Themost intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security andcalm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts andtheir conflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.
Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…