Livingwith integrity means: not settling for less than what you know you deserve inyour relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speakingyour truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in waysthat are in harmony
Talk back to your internal critic. Train yourself to recognize and write downcritical thoughts as they go through your mind. Learn why these thoughts areuntrue and practice talking and writing back to them.
Far better to think historically, to remember the lessonsof the past. Thus, far better to conceive of power as consisting in part ofthe knowledge of when not to use all the power you have. Far better to be onewho knows that if you reserve the power not to
Undernormal conditions, most people tend to see what they want to see, hear what theywant to hear, and do what they want to do; in conflicts, their positionsbecome even more rigid and fixed.
You andyour spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in thehistory of your childāsdevelopment, but as opportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teachyour children the art ofand value in negotiation, and to demonstrate you