No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.
Change meansmovement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of anonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasivefriction of conflict.
Toeffectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the waywe perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to ourcommunication with others.
Myfather said: you must never try to make all the money that's in a deal. Letthe other fellow make some money too, because if you have a reputation foralways making all the money, you won't have many deals.
Onemight as well try to ride two horses moving in different directions, as totry to maintain in equal force two opposing or contradictory sets of desires.
