Communicationis a skill that you can learn. It's like riding a bicycle or typing. Ifyou're willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of everypart of your life.
Undernormal conditions, most people tend to see what they want to see, hear what theywant to hear, and do what they want to do; in conflicts, their positionsbecome even more rigid and fixed.
Talkback to your internal critic. Train yourself to recognize and write downcritical thoughts as they go through your mind. Learn why these thoughts areuntrue and practice talking and writing back to them.