Reasonand emotion are not antagonists. What seems like a struggle between twoopposing ideas or values, one of which, automatic and unconscious, manifestsitself in the form of a feeling.
Myfather said: you must never try to make all the money that's in a deal. Letthe other fellow make some money too, because if you have a reputation foralways making all the money, you won't have many deals.
It ishard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because weare not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creatinga new ‘pearl’ as we are in being right.
Wheneveryou're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make thedifference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factoris attitude.