Whenyou plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. Youlook for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water,or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with ourfriends or our family,
You can have power over people as long as you don't takeeverything away from them. But when you've robbed a man of everything, he'sno longer in your power.
No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.
Usenon-verbal communication to SOFTEN the hard-line position of others: S =Smile, O = Open, Posture, F = Forward Lean, T = Touch, E = Eye Contact, N =Nod.