Themost intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security andcalm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts andtheir conflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.
To startblindly with a statement is a sign of arrogance and narrow-mindedness, andwill lead to conflict. To start blindly with a question is a sign ofuncertainty and honesty, and will lead to wisdom.
Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…