Bythree methods we may learn wisdom: first, by reflection, which is noblest;second, imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is thebitterest.
Insteadof suppressing conflicts, specific channels could be created to make thisconflict explicit, and specific methods could be set up by which the conflictis resolved.
Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…
You andyour spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in thehistory of your child’sdevelopment, but as opportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teachyour children the art ofand value in negotiation, and to demonstrate you