If you are distressed by anything external, the pain isnot due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you havethe power to revoke at any moment.
Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…
Thetorment of human frustration, whatever its immediate cause,is the knowledge that the self is in prison, its vital force and ‘mangledmind’ leaking away in lonely, wasteful self-conflict.
Whoeverhas the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you tryto dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolveconflict, not how to start it.