All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.

Changemeans movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of anonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasivefriction of conflict.

Man must not check reason by tradition, but must check tradition by reason.

No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.

Power is not a means, it is an end. One does not establisha dictatorship in order to safeguard a revolution; one makes the revolutionin order to establish the dictatorship.

Inbusiness, you don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.

Thebasic building block of good communications is the feeling that every humanbeing is unique and of value.

Originality is the art of Concealing your Source.

No matterhow thin you make a pancake, it always has two sides.

Goodcommunication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleepafter.

You andyour spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in thehistory of your child’sdevelopment, but as opportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teachyour children the art ofand value in negotiation, and to demonstrate you