It ishard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because weare not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creatinga new ‘pearl’ as we are in being right.
Toeffectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the waywe perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to ourcommunication with others.
We think too small. Like the frog at the bottom of the well. He thinks the sky is only as big as the top of the well. If he surfaced, he would have an entirely different view.
All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.